It’s not all rosy, and I didn’t expect that anyway. I already knew that a few friends would not be onboard with this .. so that’s no big deal. There are a few guys who will no longer meet my eyes in the hallways. They prefer to look at the carpet, head down like they’re heading somewhere serious.
I like to laugh and think that these are the guys who are most likely into “tranny porn”. Plenty of people like to objectify women of all kinds, and transwomen are no different .. although I personally would prefer not to be seen as a fetish, so I’m glad they’re looking down.
It’s been a real struggle for me to use the women’s room. I have a real hangup about that, here at work. In public, it’s much easier .. I’m not likely to ever see any of the people around me again; not so at work. I encountered a frowning woman in the restroom nearest where I sit — she didn’t say anything, but her disapproval was obvious. What’s more, when I exited the restroom, she was standing some distance away, whispering to a few of her friends and looking my way. I don’t know whether she’s complained or not, but if she does, there may or may not be a struggle.
As near as I can tell, MN employers are not required to allow transfolk access to the bathrooms they feel they belong in, but they are also not required to restrict it. However, MN employers are allowed to restrict that access based on biology. It all hinges on the other employees, whether they are uncomfortable or not. So … I am at a stand-still.
I don’t know how to approach this woman and her friends. We don’t know each other (there are around 2,000 people in my building), and I have no idea even what her name is or where she sits. I’d like to be able to pull her aside and see if I can help her feel OK, but I just have no idea how to do that, even if I could find her. I really want to avoid someone running to Human Resources and there being some kind of announcement arriving in all our emails .. everyone would know who it was about. :-(
That’s really the balance of the negative stuff so far. At most meetings, nobody slips up .. when somebody does, I take it in stride and only address it if I feel the need, which hasn’t yet happened. People who slip up are remarkably apologetic, and I try to make sure they understand that I have a sense of humor about all this. After all, the employees are having to go through a transition of sorts, too.